Is your guy

“picker” just…

broken?

Do you want a real relationship?

Does every guy you go out with turn out to be emotionally unavailable?

Do the guys you date seem more interested in hookups than commitment?

You’re not alone, and I can help.

Life is short! Stop
dating
projects.

Stop falling into hopelessness, excusing all the red flags, and pretending to be someone you’re not just to “impress” him, and start trusting your gut all the way to a secure, long-term relationship with a man who’s actually emotionally available.

(Yes, they exist!)

Does any of this sound familiar?

You end up staying in relationships longer than you should because you don’t want to start over with someone new and you believe that deep down (sometimes a little too deep down) he’s a good person.

Sometimes he can be really nice. (And after all, you always look for the good in people and don’t want to be judgy.)

You wonder if your standards are too high, and you stay up at night asking yourself if it’s really bad enough to leave.

He says he doesn’t want to commit right now, but…maybe he’ll change his mind. (Why would he keep calling you if he wasn’t into you, right? 🙄)

You just don’t want to be alone, and even though it’s not great, something is better than nothing.

You just wish you could find a nice guy already, and there’s a part of you that really believes that’s possible.

Hi, I’m Alyse, and “picker fixing” is my specialty.

After decades of working as a Columbia University-educated therapist, I’m now helping women like you break the cycle of dating emotionally unavailable men, avoid situationships, stop wasting time, and find a guy who wants an actual relationship...like a real commitment.

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Stop dating “projects” and get an actual boyfriend.

(Plus when we work together, you’ll get all the support you need to break these patterns once and for all!)

My Coaching Offerings

  • 1:1 Coaching

    If you’re tired of wasting time trying to figure out this whole dating game on your own and you’re ready to finally get a committed boyfriend, one-on-one coaching allows you to work directly with Alyse to get personalized support so you don’t have to figure it out on your own.

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  • Group Coaching

    Do you ever wonder why it’s so hard to meet a nice guy? Or why all of your friends are married with kids and you’re stuck in a sea of red flags? This group coaching program will teach you to date strategically to find the life partner you deserve.

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Client Testimonials

  • Client Testimonial

    “I was anxious about participating in this program. It felt silly to admit I might need it. My individual therapist was also skeptical that it was not what I needed to focus on, but boy were we wrong... taking the SAFE space and intentional time to be critical about dating practices with an experienced coach…, along with sharing in a group setting, held a vulnerability that was met with understanding and encouragement. It's worth breaking down what my needs are and how to find what I want. There's nothing wrong with my heart and when it comes to matters of the heart, it's worth deep diving and sorting how to swim through the dating pool effectively.”

  • Client Testimonial

    Alyse taught me to “treat dating as sort of like a business in that it is important to be specific and know what it is that I want.”

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  • Client Testimonial

    "Thank you for holding space for navigating needs, grace for honest intentions, and encouragement for prospective dates without assuming responsibility.”

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  • Client Testimonial

    “Alyse is kind, warm, caring, relatable, and funny. Most importantly, she is non-judgmental, trust-worthy, and makes you feel 100% comfortable. Alyse is realistic and genuine; she gives practical advice that will actually help you and make you more productive; she never just tells you what you want to hear. I love that I leave every session with an action plan, and Alyse always follows up with whatever it is we left off with during our previous meeting. Everyone needs an Alyse in their lives.”

  • Client Testimonial

    “You have shown me the person that I could be but never imagined I would become. For that I am forever grateful.”

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  • Client Testimonial

    “Thanks to you, Alyse, I am better for having you in my life. I am a strong, determined woman, and I know if I require a "tuneup," I know your "shop" door is open. You are the Mercedes Dealer for the soul.”

  • Client Testimonial

    “Your warmth and sincerity means more than you can know…You made me feel safe to uncover what was holding me back and you made me feel safe enough to face it, deal with it and move on. And I am better for it. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!”

  • Client Testimonial

    Alyse taught me that dating is data collection, and that it is OK to be selective and to have standards. Those guys I used to date were never my destiny.

Resource Guide

  • Get My Free Dating Checklist

    Get My Free Dating Checklist

    This free download will help you stop wasting time and start swiping intentionally.

    Download the freebie
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    Three Warning Signs Your Boyfriend is Full of Shit

    If you are at the point where you’re Googling “my boyfriend keeps lying to me” or “my boyfriend gaslights me,” something is seriously wrong. Hint: it’s not you.

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    How to Stay Positive and Happy While Dating in Your 40s

    You might believe that if you’re dating in your 40s, the only guys left are rejects with a shit ton of baggage. That’s NOT true.

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