Stop Dating Assholes!
A Group Coaching Program to Help You Achieve Your Long-Term Relationships Goals.
Do you feel like it’s impossible to meet a nice guy?
Feeling like you wanted to be married yesterday but everyone you meet is a walking red flag?
Don’t waste another minute. It’s time to start dating smarter and find the partner you deserve!
Stop Dating Assholes! is a Group Coaching Program to Help You Attract the Right Man.
Six Weeks of Group Coaching
What if you knew how to date like a pro? Not a pro in that you’ve gone on a thousand dates. A pro like a CEO who knows how to hire the best fit employees for their company. What if you knew how to selectively choose only the best viable candidates for the position of boyfriend? It is totally possible. You just don’t have the tools. In this six-week program, we’ll work together to assess and refine your dating habits so you can find the partner you deserve.
Made for Women who are Ready to Find Their Person.
In the era of Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge, there’s no end to the number of assholes you could encounter if you’re not on your toes. You probably already know this first hand! In the Stop Dating Assholes! program, I’ll teach you to date strategically so you can avoid wasting time with men who aren’t right for you.
Never Date an Asshole Again
Why do you keep meeting these assholes? Why is everyone you date looking for a mother, a conscience, or a booty call? Where are the good men?
Maybe the question isn’t why are guys such assholes, it should be why are the guys I CHOOSE TO DATE such assholes? See the difference? What are the similar qualities in the assholes that you are attracted to? What is the pattern?
Through this program, you’ll learn to break free from the patterns which aren’t serving you, and will stop making excuses for men who simply aren’t worth your time.
Meet your dating coach online and learn how to meet a nice guy IRL
Have you ever fallen into the trap of dating a “project”?
Maybe you met someone and thought he would be so great...if only....
Or maybe you’ve defended your date’s bad behavior because he has so much POTENTIAL!
I’m here to tell you, he’s not worth it.
In Stop Dating Assholes!, I’ll teach you to date in a clear, well thought out way so you can successfully find the partner you’re looking for instead of a project who will only let you down.
Wondering how to attract the right man?
You’re on the dating apps but you keep meeting the same kind of guy over and over again.
You think he’s great until he inevitably starts acting sketchy.
Then, POOF! he disappears for days, only to reach out to you a week later.
Yet, you continue speaking to him!
You tell yourself that it’s just for now until you meet someone else or that this is just how guys are, what can I do?
“He started talking to me again”. Read that again. “He started talking to me again.” If I had a nickel for every time I’ve heard that sentence...as if he gets to decide if you have contact with him.
In the Stop Dating Assholes! program, you’ll learn to stop tolerating disrespectful behavior and identify red flags early on so you don’t waste a second of your precious time.
The ghosting stops now.
Stop Dating Assholes! Group Coaching Curriculum
Week One: Define Dating Success
In week one, we’ll lay the foundation for dating success.
First, we’ll take stock of your dating experiences — from the best to the worst — to uncover your patterns.
Then, we’ll discern the signs that a guy isn’t relationship material for you (only texts you late at night, doesn’t make an effort to see you, sends messages that just say “hey” or some other generic casting-a-wide-net nonsense) and start defining your dealbreakers, must haves, and red flags.
I’ll help you use what we uncover to create a dating profile, or to fix your existing dating profile, to ensure your only attracting men who are a great fit for you.
Week Two: Dealbreakers and Dealmakers.
During week two, we’ll start to explore your dating habits more in—depth. We’ll take a critical look at your dealbreakers, how you arrived at them, and whether they are serving you.
We’ll look at things like cheating, lying, manipulation, monogamy and nonmonogamy, and more to ensure you have a clear understanding of what you want and what you deserve, so you never settle for anything less again.
We’ll also assess your must haves and how you arrived at them.
Then, with the support of myself and your cohort, you’ll start looking for a guy to go on a date with so we can practice in real time. We’ll practice identifying patterns you may be falling into — such as going for bad boys or emotionally unavailable men — and will learn how to get out of situations which aren’t serving you without wasting time, no matter how uncomfortable it may be.
Weeks Three and Four: The Mistakes Everyone Makes
Over my 20 years helping women struggling with relationships, I’ve noticed there are a handful of key mistakes that nearly everyone makes:
Paying attention to his words and not his actions.
Having sex too soon in hopes this will move you to the next level.
Not having a clear idea of what you want.
Making excuses for bad behavior.
Not paying attention when your family and friends don’t like him.
Expecting one person to tick every box.
Together, we’ll discover how these and other common mistakes play out in your dating life, and how you can stop making them moving forward. I will help you stop settling for less than you deserve, and stop sabotaging things when you meet a nice guy.
Week Five: Go on a Date.
During week five, we’ll start putting everything we’ve learned into action to practice healthy dating.
We’ll develop clear criteria for reaching out to a potential date, a game plan for approaching the date, and a strategy for assessing whether he is the right fit based on his verbal and non-verbal cues.
After the date, we’ll regroup to assess how things went, to notice if old patterns showed up, discuss any orange or red flags, and to make an action plan for moving forward.
Week Six: Assess and Integrate.
Our final week together will be an opportunity to discuss what mindset changes you’ve made and how you’ll approach dating moving forward.
We’ll summarize the most important lessons learned, and ensure you feel ready to date in a way that brings you closer to reaching your relationship goals!
Learn to Attract the Right Man
Look, the truth is, if you’ve got lots of dating battle scars, your picker is off! You aren’t being strategic enough about who you are choosing to meet and who you are swiping past too quickly.
Maybe you can you relate to this: you’re going on yet another first date with some rando that you matched with. The chatter in your head says “Fingers crossed he’ll be the one but I’m not getting my hopes up.”
Then, it turns out the same way it always does. They seem great at first, but they quickly show their true colors.
In the Stop Dating Assholes! program, we will examine your dating experiences, what you are looking for long term, and help you get clear on what it is that you actually want so you can stop repeating the same patterns.
Meet Your Coach
My name is Alyse Freda-Colon. I help women stop repeating the same dating mistakes, approach dating in a clear, intentional, and purposeful way, and maybe even start to enjoy the whole process!
Before I became a coach, I spent decades as a therapist helping women struggling with dating. An undeniable pattern arose; they talked about the same things, made the same mistakes, and found themselves wasting time on guys who were never going to be who they wanted them to be.
I want to help more women than I could possibly see in my therapy practice. That’s why I created the Stop Dating Assholes! group coaching program. If you’re ready to start swiping strategically and get really clear about what it is you’re looking for, I encourage you to join us.
Achieve your long-term relationship goals
You’re likely approaching dating backwards. You go into it hoping he will be The One. What you should be doing is thinking of it as research: observing who he is, his behavior and deciding from that if you want to continue.
Don’t waste another minute swiping with no clear cut plan.
Let’s do this right. If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always gotten.
A tip from Alyse Freda-Colon, dating coach for women:
If a guy asks you what kind of man you’re looking for, your new reply is “You be you and I’ll let you know if that’s what I’m looking for.”
“Im sorry I haven’t contacted you in 3 days-my phone fell in the pool so I had no way of reaching you”.
This was an actual situation told to me by a client. I looked at her skeptically and said, “seriously-you buy that?”
She really wanted to. But she knew deep down that he was lying. If you were really interested in someone and your phone got waterlogged what would you do? Move heaven and earth to let them know? Go to their house? Their job? You know what you wouldn’t do? Not contact them for 3 days.
If a guy is into you, you’ll know it. In the Stop Dating Assholes! program, you’ll learn to recognize BS when you see it, and to get out without wasting a minute on a man who doesn’t deserve your time.
How to attract the right man who won’t make excuses
Investment
The cost of this six-week program is $497.
For your investment, you’ll receive:
Six hour-long intensives led by Coach Alyse.
Ongoing assignments to ensure you are growing through the process.
Personalized asynchronous support from Coach Alyse between meetings.
